STRESS JUDO Black Belt stress management 
Turning stress inTO OPPORTUNITIES 
2010-07-29
Leadership is more than just yelling at people and posturing like a Hollywood movie general.  Leadership is the ability to have people do what you want them to do, and think that it's their idea.  It's not manipulative.  It's not tricking people.  In fact, real leadership is honest and transparent.  So today's executive leadership coaching tip is about how to not lead your people, but get them to want to be led.

LEAD OR DRIVE?
I was at a company team-building function.  We were broken up into small teams. The co-ordinator gave a task, and the teams were supposed to co-operate to get it done.  One person immediately forward and started directing people to go here and there, and do this and that.  Unfortunately, everything she was saying was actually obstructing solving the task.  So I asked the co-ordinator if we could use items in the room (because it was obvious the solution to the problem was to use certain items in the room).  When she said yes, another person suggested using a cup and a pitcher.   Another person asked what the best way to use these would be, and another person offered several possible solutions.  We quickly solved the problem in the fastest time. 
BUT the interesting thing was at the summary wrap up.  The management of the company revealed that this was actually an exercise to identify leaders, and they cited the FIRST person as a "take-charge" person who would make a good leader!  Never mind that her direction was truly incorrect.

PRACTICAL LEADERSHIP
The little story above demonstrates one of the most important aspects of leadership: people don't want to be led, they want to participate in their own leadership.  People who contribute - or who feel that their contribution is respected, even if it isn't used - will follow that leader.  People who are yelled at, cajoled, and threatened to follow a person will follwo that person once.

EXECUTIVE LEADERSHIP COACHING TIP
So ask your people for input.  The people you are leading are, by definition, competent.  If they are not competent, fire them and get competent people in there.  So, since you have competent people, they have valuable insight and perspectives.
Ask them for their ideas, their suggestions, their complaints, and their praise.  Find out how they do it, and how they suggest it can be done better.  Your job as the leader is not to come up with all the ideas, and tell your people what to do.  Your job is to take your ideas, and their ideas, synthesize them into goals and plans, and then get your people to move toward those goals.
Your other job as a leader is to be the calm one in a crisis, or when plans change, or when circumstances change.

To learn how to keep your calm and cool in crisis, look at STRESS JUDO Black Belt stress management.
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2010-07-27
Burnout.  It's what happens when you push and fight and advance your career, without stepping on toes or letting your life get too out of balance.  When you are doing this, your body and your mind are subject to all kinds of stress.  Physical stress of working too hard and too long.  Mental stress of making sure you are doing everything correct.  Spiritual stress from trying to keep all areas of your life in balance.  This much stress puts you in the "fight or flight" reaction all the time.  Before your systems break down under the pressure, you should look at executive stress and burnout coaching.

Burnout Coaching?  That's A New One
Coaches exist for all areas of life.  There are sports coaches.  Life coaches.  Business coaches.  And burnout coaches.  What distinbguishes a coach from any other role, like mentor or teacher, is that coaches teach you, push you, confront you, cheer with you, yell at you, and help you look at the big picture.  In other words, the coach forces you to be better.

STRESS JUDO considers coaching to be so important that it has a module devoted to it.  The coaching here is self-coaching, so you can review yourrself and push yourself.  You can be your own coach when necessary.  You can also coach others and hire your own coach for yourself.  In this way, coaching helps prevent burnout due to stress by pulling you back every now and then.

Is Executive Stress Different?
Everyone feels stress differently.  But executive stress carries its own unique circumstances.  Executives are responsible for the employees below them on the organizational chart. Which means you are responsible for their families, their futures, their security.   And you are also responsible for the growth and health of the organization.  And sometimes, these conflict with each other.

Also, there is the stress of preserving your job and advancing your career, without alienating the people dependent on you or lateral to you.  Many times, you as the executive are confronted with a situation where you either throw a co-worker under the bus for a mistake, or take responsibility and throw your own advancement and career under the bus.  And this causes stress and burnout.

Does STRESS JUDO Have An Answer For This?
There are many factors as to why someone is promoted.  But managing stress - yours and the people around you - is a huge component.  Top management wants to know that you can be relied on in pressure situations.  The people below you must be confident that you can make decisions that benefit them, and are not the result of rushed incomplete judgment.

For more information on how STRESS JUDO approaches executive stress and burnout coaching, see executive stress and burnout coaching.
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2010-07-25
We often take for granted that our brains are able to function in amazing ways. We also tend to forget that this is a very important part of our bodies to really take good care of. One way you can treat your brain well is to stimulate it each day before you get out of bed. It doesn't take long to accomplish, and it is going to help you face each new day in a positive light.

How The Process Works
Set your alarm for ten minutes earlier than you have to be out of bed. This way you can relish the time to stimulate your brain and not worry about being late for work. Do the thought exercises below while you are doing the next techniques. Stretch each part of your body and really focus on it when you are doing so. Wiggle your fingers and your toes too. Pay attention to how it feels as you freely move each one of them. You may feel silly doing these activities but they are very good for you.

As you are stimulating your brain in the morning before you get out of bed, you are going to stimulate the nerve endings to your brain. You are going to become alert and look forward to your day. If you are usually sluggish in the morning then this could be a great way to wake you up and get your day off to a better start.  These types of stress management strategies will pay off in the long run.

Benefits To Doing This
When you stimulate your brain each morning before you get out of bed you will be safer too. Research shows that this can help you to stay focused and to be well balanced. This can help reduce the risk of injuries due to falls. Many individuals find that they are more alert on their commute to work as well as throughout the day when they start it by stimulating their brain.  Many individuals may also have fewer health related issues from work related stress.

When we are children we tend to be very visual by nature. We have creative fantasies and stories that we role play all day long. However, as adults we dont allow ourselves to have those types of pleasures. You can turn back the hands of time though and incorporate them into your morning routine. Imagine yourself as a princess or a rock star before you get out of bed in the morning. Stimulate your brain by focusing on the vivid images of what would unfold in your life.  Focus on how they overcome problems and obstacles, and how they feel when they do this.  Take note of the lack of the "I worry too much" mindset.

Advanced Tips For This Technique
Try to incorporate all of our senses into those images as well. What did it feel like? What did it smell like? What were you saying and what was being said back to you? How did food taste? The more of these senses that you can pull into your imaginative stories the more stimulated your brain will become. These stories should put a nice smile on your face to begin the day with as well.

Have some classical music by your bed that you can easily turn on without getting up in the morning. Focus on listening to the sound of it for about 10 minutes. Doing so is going to open up your mind to many things. Identify the flow of the music as well as what will come next. As you become more familiar with the music it is going to be easier to end up thinking about something else as you listen to it. Don't let that happen though - make a conscious effort to focus all of your attention on only the music for that span of time.

Some people would prefer to engage in such a process before bed to help them unwind. While that can be helpful and it can help you to get a good night of sleep, too many people rush through the process in order to get it done at night. Others fall asleep before they are able to complete it. So the best rule of thumb if you want to really stimulate your brain is to take part in such activities first thing in the morning.  And face all your stress management situations with focus, clarity, energy, and no fear.

What To Do Next
Obviously, the next thing to do is to incorporate this technique into your daily stress management habits.  This is taught more fully at the Black Belt level of STRESS JUDO.  Click below for 3 EXCLUSIVE reports:
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2010-07-17
Hi all.  It's Saturday, and my girls just got new bikes.  So we are going to get them new helmets (because new helmets make you go FASTER!), so this will be brief.  But it's important.  And it's something you can try immediately and let us know how it works for you.

Stress is external.  Worry is internal.  So they can be separated and dealt with differently.  Even the physical stress of disease or illness on your organs or bodily systems is external to those systems, even if they are internal to your body.  By internal, I mean internal to your mind. 
 
So, since stress is external, it can be dealt with.  Humans are designed (by evolution or divinity, take your pick) to adjust their environment.  That includes stressful situations.  Handling and modifying a stressful situation kicks in the same emotions and reactions as designing a building, writing a book or song, or trying to woo that "special person" (woo. How often do you hear THAT word?).  The key to successful executive leadership coaching is learning to remove a stressful situation, as much as staying cool under pressure.  And that is basically the principle behind STRESS JUDO.  You can attack a stressful situation, find the opportunities for growth that lie hidden there, and then turn the stressful situation into an opportunity.

So what about worry?  What about that anxiety attack that stress causes in your mind?   Well, that's exactly where it is - in your mind.  So you can handle it by how you think about it.  Easier said than done?  Think about a time when you heard the most awful sound coming from your car.  Were you thinking the worst?  Huge repair bill?  New car?  Breakdown on an important trip?  Now think about how relieved you were when the mechanic said it just needed a hose tightened, or more air in the tires.   Your mindset switched instantly, didn't it?  Because the stress (the noise from the car) was external, but the worry was internal.

So apply this to stress.  When a stressful situation arises, take time and worry like crazy!  Imagine the absolute worst that can happen - and make it a little worse.  Picture all the bad scenarios.  Picture the good scenarios going horribly wrong.  Do that until you have all the worry out of your system.
 
Then, turn your mind to the task of attacking and solving the stressor.  Solving a problem puts your mind and body into the expectancy mode (as opposed to the "fight or flight" mode caused by getting hit with stress).  With all the worry behind you, you should be able to concentrate and focus on solving the problem.  And you might start seeing that your worry was exaggerated.  If you see your worry wasn't enough, then you now have a more realistic picture of the problem.

STRESS JUDO addresses the worry part too, through modules on meditation and fitness.  But that cannot be the only part of your stress management system, because the stressor is still there, causing stress!  All you are doing is treading water in a whitewater river.

So please check out STRESS JUDO Black Belt stress management training. And try this new approach out and leave us comments on how it worked for you. Or if it can be done differently or better. Thank you.

DISCLAIMER: Not intended to daignose or treat any situation.   If you are prone to anxiety attacks and such, check with a doctor first.  You know, reading enough of these disclaimers, it seems appropriate to say check with a doctor before you do anything, and then don't do anything, out of fear of danger and all that. Just a disclaimer, you know... Use your best judgement.  That seems to be getting lost these days.
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2010-07-10
STRESS JUDO: The Newsletter July 2010
is now on the website, available for your reading and downloading.

We have reformatted the Newsletter to be more in line with our strategic purpose of providing stress management and executive leadership coaching.  The new format of the newsletter will supplement the training available in STRESS JUDO: The Mastery Manual and STRESS JUDO: The Black Belt training program by:

1. Having 1 article per Manual, written by the STRESS JUDO staff and focused on explaining the relevant topic in depth;
2. Having 1 GUEST article per Manual, giving a different perspective and more information on the relevant topic;
3. Having the entire issue of The Newsletter focused on one topic relevant to stress management;
4. Using a Table Of Contents to help you access the most relevant information faster; and
5. Having a final page of relevant reference links, so you don't have to search through pages and pages to find what you need.

The Newsletter is only available to STRESS JUDO Community Members - and membership is FREE!
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Author
RICK CARTER - Christian, father, husband, martial arts student, litigator.  STRESS JUDO developed to fight stress in fighting arena and courtroom. You too can be as cool and calm as every movie lawyer or action hero you've ever seen.  Be envied by everyone who cracks under pressure. You won't.

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