STRESS JUDO Black Belt stress management 
Turning stress inTO OPPORTUNITIES 
2011-03-19
My first job when I graduated from college was with a huge (huuuuuuuuuge!) company that generated a lot of computer programs.  No, not THAT one. Even older. AT&T back in the days when it was a monopoly.  And I have nothing but praise and gratitude for what I learned there. Thank you, AT&T. But I digres

The process of developing a program was the following:1.      Draft a High-Level Design Document.2.      Draft a data flow document.3.      Draft a Detailed Design Document.4.      Draft flow charts for subroutines.Write the program.

Okay, so the process for drafting the High-Level Design Document was to list all the data bases from which your program drew its data, and all the subroutines that your program interacted with in any fashion, whether it was to send its results or have a computation done.  The document is then circulated among the project members, including the people who know the most about the data bases and subroutines, for comments and feedback. It is a marvelous method, and one that I have used in many other fields besides programming.

Well, for my first project, I was having difficulty drafting this document, because I was having difficulty getting the information I needed about the other things my project would interface with.  I was either asking the wrong questions or not explaining my concept clearly enough, but it just wasn't coming together. So I wrote a document that I knew was deliberately wrong in key areas, to force the people at the meeting to give me the right answers.  See, they had an interest in it, too.

So I circulated this document, and went to the meeting.  And we went around the table, each person pointing out how my document was horribly wrong.  And my boss looking at me like I couldn't spell "C" if you gave me a hint, and me writing like a court reporter on speed and steroids.

At the end of the meeting, I thanked each person individually for his or her contribution, and told them what I had done and why I had done it.  I went back to my office and finished the project in 2 months (it had been projected for 6 more).  When it went to system test, it went through unscathed.

For the rest of my brief time there, this little incident had no impact.  It didn't ruin my career and it didn't make my career.  I believe this was so because this I show I approached my career, there and everywhere - when in doubt, step out. Take a shot. Take a risk.  Keep the bigger picture in focus.

Too many people are so scared of taking a risk that they never move off their spot.  They are so scared of what people think of them or will think of them, that they never give anyone else the opportunity to think of them at all.

My opinion, having worked in 3 disparate careers and many different workplaces, is that most workplace anxiety is caused by people NOT speaking up.  By NOT confronting a stupid or unworkable idea.  By NOT writing a document that is deliberately wrong so that a document that is deliberately correct can be written.

So here is the takeaway from this little story.  When you need an answer, step out with energy and confidence.  Because when you need an answer, the world or your community will provide the answer.  But when you need assurance or reputation more than you need a correct answer, get a puppy or a kitten.  Because the world or your community will only give you assurance and repute as ling as it benefits THEM, not as long as it benefits you.   Believe in yourself.  Take the risk.  And if you get kicked out of the community, then you have learned something about yourself.

(P.S. I actually left AT&T to join an organization to assist in Africa, another wonderful and life-changing organization, and another one that was not necessarily a good fit for me. But I love both organizations and look back fondly and carry what these two taught me to this day.)

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2011-03-09
We have added a GUARANTEE to the Coaching program.  Everyone who enrolls in the Coaching program receives the STRESS JUDO Black Belt training system as the core of the coaching.  If for any reason you decide that the personal coaching is not right for you, you REMAIN in the Black Belt training system!  This is a $330 value that trains you over 6 months and 6 belts to develop your black belt mindset toward stressful situations.
 
Coaching is growth focused.  Not cheerleading, although motivation is a component.  Not training, although teaching is a big part.  Not game-planning, although helping you see the "big picture" comes with the territory.  Coaching is all of these, with the added element of training you to master the insight to do all of this for yourself.
 
Personal coaching, which is what STRESS JUDO COACHING offers, means you and your coach (in this case - me!) take a journey, where the path leads to personal transformation.  It doesn't have to be some peer-into-the-soul-of-the-Universe revelation (although, as revelations go, those are pretty cool).  For some people, it means that you are a different person from when you started.  For others, it means you are a completely different person from when you started.  For me, it meant a person who took the combative excellence needed in the courtroom and fighting ring and fashioned into a training program to help people fight the daily stresses and anxieties that keep them from seeing the joy in their lives.

The main page for STRESS JUDO COACHING is at:
http://www.StressJudoCoaching.com

 
This page explains that the coaching is personal - meaning one-on-one with the coach and focused on you personally - built within the framework of the progressive training of the belt system.  It explains the resources, the belts, the tools you receive at each level.  It explains the price.  It explains all the free stuff you can ask for.
 
But it cannot give you the experience and feel of coaching.  It's like boxing or dancing (I have done both).  No matter how many rounds or recitals you observe.  No matter how many "behind the scenes" documentaries you watch. No matter how many boxers or dancers you talk with.   None of these can give you the experience of seeing a punch coming at your head and ducking under it, or of boxing (yeah, you've never seen me dance, have you?).
 
So STRESS JUDO COACHING will coach you for free, so you can decide whether there is value there or not for you.  At the bottom of the information page is a Contact Form, where you can request a 30 minute coaching session.  You will have your own experience to decide that coaching is the thing that can take you to that elusive next level.

So please go to:
http://www.StressJudoCoaching.com
 
Fill out the form.
Get coached for 30 minutes.
Then get coached a lot.
 
I look forward to meeting you.
 
Sincerely,
Rick Carter
Indianapolis, IN
STRESS JUDO COACHING

Turning stress inTO OPPORTUNITIES

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2011-03-08
Meditation is one of the most effective weapons for managing workplace stress.  There are so many different types of meditation. How many? Who knows, but enough so that you can find the one that's right for you. To get your search started, here are six types of meditation you can try.

1. Breath watching. Can meditating be as simple as paying attention to your breath for a few minutes? You bet. Relax in whatever position works best for you, close your eyes and start to pay attention to your breathing. Breathing through your nose gets your diaphragm involved and gets oxygen all the way to the bottom of your lungs. As your mind wanders, just re-focus your attention on the air going in and out of your nose. Just do this for several minutes, or longer as you get used to it.  This is quick and effective way to combat work anxiety.

2. Empty mind meditation. Meditating can create a kind of "awareness without object," an emptying of all thoughts from your mind. The techniques for doing this involve sitting still, often in a "full lotus" or cross-legged position, and letting the mind go silent on its own. It can be difficult, particularly since any effort seems to just cause more business in the mind.

3. Walking meditations. This one gets the body involved. It can be outside or simply as a back and forth pacing in a room. Pay attention to the movement of your legs and breathing and body as you walk, and to the feeling of your feet contacting the ground. When your mind wanders, just keep bringing it back to the process of walking and breathing. Meditating outside in this way can be difficult because of the distractions. If you do it outside, find a quiet place with level ground.

4. Mindfulness meditation. A practice Buddhists call vipassana or insight meditation, mindfulness is the art of becoming deeply aware of what is here right now. You focus on what's happening in and around you at this very moment, and become aware of all the thoughts and feelings that are taking your energy from moment to moment. You can start by watching your breath, and then move your attention to the thoughts going through your mind, the feelings in your body, and even the sounds and sights around you. The key is to watch without judging or analyzing.
 

5. Simple mantra meditation. Many people find it easier to keep their mind from wandering if they concentrate on something specific. A mantra can help. This is a word or phrase you repeat as you sit in meditation, and is chosen for you by an experienced master in some traditions. If you are working on this alone, you can use any word or phrase that works for you, and can choose to either repeat it aloud or in your head as you meditate.

6. Meditating on a concept. Some meditative practices involve contemplation of an idea or scenario. An example is the "meditation on impermanence," in which you focus on the impermanent nature of all things, starting with your thoughts and feelings as they come and go. In the Buddhist "meditation on the corpse," you think about a body in the ground, as it slowly rots away and is fed on by worms. The technique is used to guide you to an understanding that your rationalizing mind might not bring you to.
 

There are many other meditations you can try, such as the "meditation on loving-kindness" or "object" meditation, and even meditating using brain wave entrainment products. Each type has its own advantages and effects. For this reason, you may find that at different times and for different purposes you want to use several different types of meditation.  But for workplace stress management, you should select a simple method you can use without a lot of space or equipment.

Meditation is a terrific method of managing workplace stress.  It can actually reverse the bad health effects of stress.  But no matter how much you meditate, the stress is still there.  The best way to transform stress is to use meditation to calm and strengthen your inner self while attacking the stressor.  By using this two fold approach, you can transform stress into opportunities, which is a lot less stressful.
 

STRESS JUDO COACHING is the EXCLUSIVE stress management coaching program that trains you for personal transformation. This program, created and developed by Rick Carter, certified coach, trial attorney and martial artist, will help you develop a Black Belt mind when it comes to attacking and defeating stress.
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RICK CARTER - Christian, father, husband, martial arts student, litigator.  STRESS JUDO developed to fight stress in fighting arena and courtroom. You too can be as cool and calm as every movie lawyer or action hero you've ever seen.  Be envied by everyone who cracks under pressure. You won't.

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