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2010-09-19
Credit card debt problems are very easy to get into.  Even with new laws and regulations, it seems like credit cards companies are still very willing to give you a virtually unlimited supply of credit cards, which translates into a virtually unlimited supply of credit.  Or call it by its real name: debt.  So how can you manage the stress of too much credit card debt?

It is very easy to fall into having too much credit card debt.  You can charge almost anything, but you pay it back with a small payment whenever the bill arrives.  And for most people, the minimum payment on any 1 credit card bill is very little.  So the problem for most people is that they don't realize how much trouble they are getting in, and how quickly.  It's like gaining weight: a lot easier to put on than to take off.

Here are 3 suggestions for dealing with credit card debt, from a creative problem solving perspective:
  1. Stop using credit cards as cash.  Most people don't carry cash in their wallets these days.  If they, it's probably not enough to cover most purchases.  So people carry credit cards and use them like cash, to make purchases. This works if and only if you pay that credit charge at the end of the month when the bill arrives.  The way to make this work is to have a separate checking account that will be the cash you are using the credit card for.  Every time you make a purchase with a credit card, transfer money from your savings or checking account into this account.  Then, when the credit card bill arrives, you will have the cash to pay it off.
 
  1. Don't pay credit with a loan.  Many people fall into the trap of "paying off" a credit card with the new "zero balance transfer" credit card.  Or by refinancing the house or tapping a Home Equity Line Of Credit and "paying off" a credit card.  However, this is not paying off the credit card - it is merely transferring the debt to another credit card or your house.  Hopefully, you will have a lower interest rate, but that's not the point. A new debt does not "pay off" the old debt.  It simply means you are sending your payments to someone new.
 
  1. Prioritize your spending.  Adjust your budget so your credit cards are paid off first.  Now, there are a lot of considerations that go into managing your budget, so don't use this article as your only source of financial advice.  However, if you want to get out from credit card debt, you must make it a priority.  That means making adding to your credit card payment (so it gets paid faster) rather than going out to dinner.  It means not buying that thing you just have to have, at least until you have the cash to pay for it.  It means that you and your family have a hard talk about setting other things aside, like vacations or new cars if the old one still runs, until the credit card debt is paid for.

You can search online to see how long it will take you to pay off your credit card debt if you pay only the minimum payment.  You may even be able to call the credit card company and have them tell you.  It is shocking.  If you really want a heart attack, figure out how much you will pay back, with the interest.  And the worst part is that virtually no credit card is for something that will return either a profit or a substantial part of the original debt.  For example, if you put your car on a credit card, then at least you can sell the car at the end and recover some money.  But things like dinner, coffee, and clothes are not investments.  They are merely purchases.  And every purchase requires cash.  It's just that credit card purchases require the cash much later, and much more.

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2010-09-14
Many people think of time management as micro-managing your day by filling up every minute with a tedious list of A-B-C prioritized tasks.  Actually, time management is self discipline.  It's the discipline to say no to distractions and interruptions, and stay focused on the task at hand.  Stress management is more than just meditating and exercising.  It is eliminating the stressors in your life.  Stress and time management are actually methods for liberating your life, not restricting it.

Here are 7 tips for using stress and time management to free yourself:

1. In a stressful situation, distinguish between items that need to be done immediately and items that may not be needed to be done at all.  By dividing your tasks in this way, you save time by not wasting it, and you save stress by rejecting the tasks that would put you in time pressure.
2. Focus on assisting where you are needed most.  Too often, people try to help out where there is a need, as opposed to where there is a need for your skill set.  By helping out where you are needed most, you can use your strengths to their best advantage, which reduces your stress.  You also can contribute immediately, which is top-notch time management.
3. Learn to delegate.  Many people have reservations about delegating tasks because they think it makes them look like they think they are superior to the person to whom they delegate.  Nothing could be further from the truth.  Proper delegation is assigning tasks to either someone who has better strengths than you or who has more time to accomplish the task.
4. Review how you spent your time and how you handled stressful situations.  By taking some time each day or each week to review these two important areas, you prepare yourself to be better for the next occurrence.  Football teams watch films of games to find areas to improve.  You can playback the movie of each day to find areas to improve.
5. Ask your management for help.  Wherever you are on the organizational chart, someone above you is responsible for strategic planning.  You can reduce stress by making sure your planning is in line with the goals of the organization.  And you can save time by not wasting it deviating to unauthorized tasks.
6. Schedule time that is unscheduled.  Too many time management programs ask that you fill up the entire day.  By scheduling unfilled time throughout the day, you have time to reflect, to plan, and to unwind. You have time to alleviate the pressure of the stress on you during the day, to be better able to fight the stress that is still to come.
7. Develop a quick assessment system for interruptions.  This includes mail, email, and telephone calls.  A simple assessment system is to decide if the interruption can be dealt with in less than 5 minutes - do it now.   If it takes longer, schedule a specific time for it or delegate it and review the progress at that time.  Or, if it is a worthless interruption, discard it.

Stress and time management can be used together to liberate your life.  When you are not constantly under stress, you can spend time planning your life.  And when you have time that is not committed to someone else, you can spend that time stress-free.  There are many components to a comprehensive stress management system, but addressing stress and managing time are 2 of the moist important.

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2010-09-13
The first step in creating a successful budget is creating your own personal budget planner.  The key is the "personal" part.  There are plenty of templates, software programs, and websites that can give you suggestions of how a budget should be organized, or what items should go into a budget.  But when it comes to your personal budget, only you are best qualified to decide what it should look like.  This is because your spending patterns are personal to you and your family; and may not have the same categories as these pre-packaged planners.  Poorly managed finances can add almost unbearable stress to an individual or family.  Proper stress management must include some budgeting.

Here are 8 steps to tracking your spending, the first step to successful budgeting.

    1. Give each person who spends the money a way to easily record his or her spending.  This can be a small notebook, the memo function on a cell phone, or email.  The key is to capture the data in as small an entry as possible.
    2. Appoint one person to gather the records and put them in a spreadsheet or data base very frequently.  It can be daily or weekly.  It should not be longer than once per week, because people will forget whether "food $27.78" was for groceries or fast food.
    3. As you are creating this tracking, start developing categories that are meaningful to you.  For some people, "food" may be enough.  For other people, "food" may need to be broken down into "groceries," "eating out," and "lunches."
    4. Have the family discuss together both the categories and the goals and priorities of the budget.  If the goal is to stop using credit cards, then the person who uses the credit cards the most must understand and accept this.
    5. Record spending that you don't see, such as deductions for taxes or automatic payments for certain loans or bills.
    6. Record cash spending, but not cash withdrawals.  Never enter "ATM cash $100."  The withdrawal merely moves the money from one place to another.  What you are capturing here is the spending of the money withdrawn.
    7. Include categories that you want to be goals in the budget when you develop it.  For example, if "saving for children's college" will be a goal, then include that here as a category, even if you are not spending there right now.
    8. A primary goal during the tracking period is to not add to credit card debt or other credit lines.  The reason for this is that purchasing something with a credit card is not "spending."  The payment you make in a few months to the credit card company for this purchase is the spending.  If you add to credit card debt while you are tracking your spending, all you are doing is deferring your budget.  Once you realize this, explain it to your Congress-person.

Do this tracking for as long as you feel is necessary.  One month may be enough to get your family's spending down enough to build a budget.  Or it may take several months, especially if some people cannot stop using the credit card.  But at some point, you and your family will feel comfortable that you have gathered enough information to build a budget.

By tracking your spending and developing your personal and family priorities, you will create a personal budget planner that is actually personal.  And, by including each member of the family in setting the priorities and goals, and in gathering the spending, you have a much higher chance of sticking to the budget.  This will help, because budgets are usually created because the stress of unmonitored spending is breaking you down.  A well-created realistic budget can be a major component of your stress management program.

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2010-09-12
In these economic times, practically no one has the luxury anymore of joking "I can't be broke - I still have checks left!"  Managing your money is a necessity. Unfortunately, all of the information out about how to set up a budget almost always ignores the most important point: the purpose of the budget.  Family budgeting has a purpose.  That is either to stop or redirect spending, or to force savings.  If your budget is not doing one of these two things, your budget isn't really doing anything except increasing your stress.  And no stress management system can fight against that.

  1. Stopping or redirecting spending.  Too many families know that their spending is out of control.  But they have no idea how they are spending their money. Consequently, they have no idea where to cut back.  So a budget that is focused on your spending must do the following:
    1. Track your spending for at least one month by specific categories. "Miscellaneous" is not a category.
    2. Prioritize the categories by need, not by want.
    3. Plan out your budget for each month based on the new priorities.
    4. Stick to the budget.
    5. Track your credit card spending and ATM withdrawals.  These are budget killers.

  1. Forced savings.  For many families, savings comes last.  They may be able to follow a budget, but not many budgets have a category for savings.   The savings can be general, like an emergency fund or just a cushion.  It can be for a specific purpose, like college for the kids or retirement or a vacation.  This article is not on financial planning, so we cannot tell you the best method of savings and investing.  But a budget that is focused on savings has money going into the savings category first.  This type of budget also requires prioritizing the cashflow, but it puts the savings category as the top priority.  It also may have some more flexibility, however.  If the savings method chosen is aggressively growing, then you may have some months where the savings accounts don't require so much input.

Setting up a personal financial budget in this manner can also reduce some of the worry and stress on the family.  If your family is constantly arguing over money or fighting over one or both spouse's long hours at work or missing out on activities with the children because of money considerations, then strictly following a budget may relieve some of this.  An overall stress management system should include emphasis on managing finances.

Failing to control your family finances will only lead to more of the same pain.  Setting up a budget is a start.  But if the budget is unfocused, then you will be fighting yourself each month to follow it.  Worse would be a budget where no one knows the priorities or not everyone had input into deciding the priorities.  The problem here is that, without each family member being invested in the prioritization of the budget, they are far more likely to fall to temptation to spend outside the budget.

 
Family budgeting may seem like one of those chores that no one wants to do.  People are reluctant to discuss money with their families, and sometimes even their spouse.  But it can be used to teach children how to manage money.  And it is fascinating, and brings people closer together, to hear each person's priorities and thereby their goals and dreams.  Take some time and create your family budget right.  And you just may be creating your family right as a result.

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2010-09-12
A major and consistent source of stress for most people is money.  Well, actually the stress is caused by spending more money than they bring in or have.  The answer to this is simple: spend less.  Yeah, and the answer to losing weight is spend more calories than you eat.  So let's come up with a plan for realistic family money management and hopefully get rid of some of that stress with a realistic budget.

1. Do NOT make the traditional "money in, money out" budget.  This may help you understand the problem, and show you where you are spending money that you shouldn't.  But the problem is that defining the budget this way is what governments do, and you know how hard it is for THEM to cut anything out.

2. Put your income at the top of a sheet.  This is all regular income.  Don't put bonuses.  Do include your spouse's income and child support - if it is reliable.

3. List the required deductions.  Tax withholdings, social security, medicare.  Do not include voluntary contributions to retirement plans.

4. Subtract from income.  This is your income.  This is your cap. This is the number that cannot be exceeded.

5. List fixed expenses. Rent or mortgage, loan payments, credit card minimum payments, utilities (average), and any other kind of payment you have committed to in writing (i.e., can be sued over).  Include any court-ordered child support or alimony you or your spouse is ordered to pay

6. Subtract again.  If you are below zero, call a financial planner or a bankruptcy attorney.

7. The figure you have now is your disposable income.

8. Put 10% into an emergency fund.

9. Put the budget to the side.  Have a hard talk with your family about the priorities of your discretionary spending.  Are dance lessons for the kids higher priority than getting a new car?  Do you need to eat out for lunch every day?  Which is more important: that boob job or saving for a second honeymoon?  There are no answers to these questions.  Except for the answers your family comes up with.  And then those are the only answers.

10. Put these priorities next to the discretionary income amount, and plan it out.  Know that the items at the bottom of the list probably can't be paid for right now.  That's why they are at the bottom of the list.

So there's your budget.  Follow it each month.  Look at your spending and see if you spending discretionary money on the bottom-of-the-list items.  Spend money on the top-of-the-list list items first.
See, doing it the other way - listing your spending first and trying to cut individual items out- makes the spender defensive.  "Of course I need to eat lunch out everyday.  It's a meeting, it's stress relief, it's my one little source of pleasure. And why should I cut that when you get to keep your expensive gym membership?"  And here comes the fight...

This budget is highly likely to succeed because everyone has contributed and everyone has accepted the priority decisions first.  Once the priorities are listed, the money is spent on them from top to bottom.  When you run out of money, you run out of spending.

Family money management is one of the biggest sources of stress.  Meditating, deep breathing, and exercise may calm your physical reactions to stress.  But they won't relieve the source of the stress.

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2010-08-28
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2010-08-22
Innovation is a talent that everyone has.  Unfortunately, most people don't realist this. The power of innovation. If you've ever marveled at somebody's creative prowess, well guess what! You can create and innovate too. It just takes practice over time. Everyone is born creative. The box of crayons in kindergarten was not limited to those who possessed potential; because the truth is, everybody has potential.

You know how long it took to learn to ride a bike or drive or to never commit the same mistake again? It's the same with innovation. It takes a bit of practice and a bit of time before this mind function comes easily when called. This article will teach you a few tips on how to bring innovation into your life.

Don't listen to what other people say. Follow the beat of your own drum. Allowing for the input of other people will only bring cacophony to the music you are trying to make. If you have an original idea, don't waste your time and effort trying to make people understand. They won't. And the help you will probably get comes in the form of negative feedback. If all those geniuses listened to their peers, we would probably still be living in the middle ages.

Spend time on it. I cannot stress that enough, although, please do not mistake this tip to tell you to quit your day job entirely. Do not. This involves some tricky time management but with a little discipline you'll be able to squeeze both in.

Exercise. Take a walk. Run a mile or two. Send all those endorphins coursing through your veins. Exercising certainly clears and relaxes your mind and allows for anything to pop up.

Record your dreams. Aren't some of them just the craziest things that your conscious mind would never have thought of? If you've had these dreams before, and I'm sure you have, this only shows you the untapped innovative power you have lying within. So jot down those notes. Those dreams may just create an innovative spark in you.

Find your own style. You can always tell a Van Gogh from a Matisse. You'll know Hemingway wrote something by the choice of words on the paper. So it is the same with you. People will appreciate your innovation more because it is uniquely yours and that no one else would have thought of what you were thinking. That will let people see how valuable an asset you are.

Don't hide behind nifty gadgets or tools. You don't need the most expensive set of paints to produce a masterpiece. The same with writing. You don't need some expensive fountain pen and really smooth paper for a bestseller. So what if you've got an expensive SLR camera if you're a crappy photographer? Who cares if you've got a blinging laptop if you can't write at all? The artist actually reduces the number of tools he has as he gets better at his craft: he knows what works and what doesn't.

Nothing will work without passion. What wakes you up in the mornings? What keeps the flame burning? What is the one thing that you'll die if you don't do? Sometimes people with talent are overtaken by the people who want it more. Think the hare and the tortoise. Ellen Degeneres once said that if you're not doing something that you want to do, then you don't really want to do it. And that's true. Sometimes you just want something so bad you become virtually unstoppable. And that is passion. Passion will keep you going.

Don't worry about inspiration. You can't force it; inspiration hits when you least expect it.  But you still need to be prepared for those unpredictable yet inevitable moments. An idea could strike you on the subway, yet alas, you poor unfortunate soul; you have no sheet of paper to scribble down a thought that could change the world. Avoid these disasters. Have something to record your ideas within your arm's reach at all times.

I hope this article has helped you bring more innovation into your life. Keep in mind that you're doing these things for your own satisfaction and not anybody else's. But soon enough they will notice and everything should snowball from there.

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2010-08-15
Hi all. Well, STRESS JUDO: The Newsletter - August 2010 edition is up on the website. The topic is LEADERSHIP.  It is 58 pages, no ads, and 12 guest articles (so you get different perspectives and a full range of information).
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This month's topic is STRESS AND LEADERSHIP.
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TOPIC ARTICLES:
THE SUCCESS MINDSET
YELLOW BELT
LEADERSHIP THROUGH CREATIVE PROBLEM SOLVING
Manage Your Business Better by Applying These Creative Problem Solving Steps
By Justyna Bizdra
TIME MANAGEMENT AND LEADERSHIP
Leadership - 6 Signs of Procrastination
By Duncan Brodie
ORANGE BELT
CREATIVE THINKING AND LEADERSHIP
5 Reasons Why Creativity Matters to Leaders
By Kevin Eikenberry
SELF EXAMINATION AND LEADERSHIP
Ten Key Characteristics of Effective Leaders
By Billy Arcement
GREEN BELT
GOAL SETTING AND LEADERSHIP
Goal Setting at the Leadership Level
By Bryant Nielson
FAITH AND LEADERSHIP
A Woman Leader's Self-Esteem - 7 Self-Esteem Issues Faced by Women in Leadership
By Consuelo Meux
BLUE BELT
COACHING AND LEADERSHIP
Leadership Coaching - 10 Ways to Inspire Your Employee Attitudes
By Mike Krutza and Jodi Wiff
CHANGING YOURSELF AND LEADERSHIP
How to Be a Leader When You Are Not the Boss
By Stephen J. Blakesley
BROWN BELT
FITNESS AND LEADERSHIP
Leadership Goals For The Self
By Terry Vermeylen
MEDIATION AND LEADERSHIP
Mindfulness Meditation Leadership Development - The Art of Non-Achievement
By Maynard Brusman
BLACK BELT
ENERGY AND LEADERSHIP
Leadership Courage - 3 Ways to Assess Your Organization's Energy Level
By Mike Krutza and Jodi Wiff
HABITS AND LEADERSHIP
The 5 Habits of Leadership
By Alison Johnston and Richard A Johnston
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2010-08-01
Stress may or may not cause gray hair.  But it seems to contribute to it, by causing the body to age prematurely.  So if you are predisposed to having gray hair, it may come faster and sooner if you are under a lot of stress.  Especially stress that is not relieved.

Check out these references, but then come back HERE to find out how to prevent gray hair.

Here is an article from Scientific American that talks about the health effects of stress

And this article from Psychology Today says stress also talk s about the health effects of stress on causing grey hair over time.

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STRESS JUDO Black Belt stress management system is a comprehensive system that trains you to attack any stress in your life.  You will turn any stressful situation - that makes other people crumble and wilt - into opportunities for growth and profit.

STRESS JUDO was developed by a trial attorney who is also a martial artist, to deal with the emotional and psychological stress of the courtroom and the physical and spiritual stress of the fighting ring.   Using 6 belts levels, you progress from handling external stress through the strengthening yourself to combat the health effects of stress, to the black belt level of anticipating and defeating stress before it strikes.


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2010-07-29
Leadership is more than just yelling at people and posturing like a Hollywood movie general.  Leadership is the ability to have people do what you want them to do, and think that it's their idea.  It's not manipulative.  It's not tricking people.  In fact, real leadership is honest and transparent.  So today's executive leadership coaching tip is about how to not lead your people, but get them to want to be led.

LEAD OR DRIVE?
I was at a company team-building function.  We were broken up into small teams. The co-ordinator gave a task, and the teams were supposed to co-operate to get it done.  One person immediately forward and started directing people to go here and there, and do this and that.  Unfortunately, everything she was saying was actually obstructing solving the task.  So I asked the co-ordinator if we could use items in the room (because it was obvious the solution to the problem was to use certain items in the room).  When she said yes, another person suggested using a cup and a pitcher.   Another person asked what the best way to use these would be, and another person offered several possible solutions.  We quickly solved the problem in the fastest time. 
BUT the interesting thing was at the summary wrap up.  The management of the company revealed that this was actually an exercise to identify leaders, and they cited the FIRST person as a "take-charge" person who would make a good leader!  Never mind that her direction was truly incorrect.

PRACTICAL LEADERSHIP
The little story above demonstrates one of the most important aspects of leadership: people don't want to be led, they want to participate in their own leadership.  People who contribute - or who feel that their contribution is respected, even if it isn't used - will follow that leader.  People who are yelled at, cajoled, and threatened to follow a person will follwo that person once.

EXECUTIVE LEADERSHIP COACHING TIP
So ask your people for input.  The people you are leading are, by definition, competent.  If they are not competent, fire them and get competent people in there.  So, since you have competent people, they have valuable insight and perspectives.
Ask them for their ideas, their suggestions, their complaints, and their praise.  Find out how they do it, and how they suggest it can be done better.  Your job as the leader is not to come up with all the ideas, and tell your people what to do.  Your job is to take your ideas, and their ideas, synthesize them into goals and plans, and then get your people to move toward those goals.
Your other job as a leader is to be the calm one in a crisis, or when plans change, or when circumstances change.

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RICK CARTER - Christian, father, husband, martial arts student, litigator.  STRESS JUDO developed to fight stress in fighting arena and courtroom. You too can be as cool and calm as every movie lawyer or action hero you've ever seen.  Be envied by everyone who cracks under pressure. You won't.

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